“The woman who follows
the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. The woman who walks alone
is likely to find herself in places no one has ever been before.” ~ Albert
Einstein
This is one of my very favorite quotes.
Often
we all fall into the assumptions life should be lived according to what our
religions, traditions or learned moral values teach us but problem
is if we follow the crowd and everything what make our life comfortable then
one day we’ll end up with losing self , The comfort of knowing what is
expected drives most to live a predictable life. We all fit with a routine life
what everyone followor you can say , what we learnt from childhood days, but
when we become old and gray, regretting all the things we did not do. Many of
us day dream about things we are only brave enough to do in our imagination and
when it comes to taking that first step to putting that dream to work, we doubt
ourselves.
We
doubt on our own strength because we allow fear to
question our commitment to the crowd; we allow fear to convince us we will be scolded and
shunned for taking that first step to walk alone; we assume traditions and
moral values are beliefs which cannot be bent or edited to become our own
version.
When
you are struggling with taking that first step to walk alone, ask yourself if
that step is done for LOVE. LOVE for
yourself and LOVE for LIFE. Often
times we allow ourselves to stay stuck in a bad, miserable or unhealthy
situation because we are afraid of losing something which we may get from the
crowd like support and love. If you live your LIVE with LOVE as your main driver, you will only
reciprocate that energy and more will come right back to you.
“There are old heads in the world who cannot help me by their
example or advice to live worthily and satisfactorily to myself; but I believe
that it is in my power to elevate myself this very hour above the common level
of my life.” ~ Henry David Thoreau
In a crowd, people are like each other and strive
to be so. Walking
alone, your example is yourself is quit difficult as very few people accept you
as you are. You learn to be better than you were yesterday and
realize dictating your own life is more beneficial than using someone else as
your example to be like. Many influential people in the world walked alone, they
realized their potential was only limited when they compared themselves to
someone else.
“It’s not what you are that holds you back, It’s what you think
you’re not.” ~ Denis Waitley
It is
a very well-known fact that if anyone wants to do succeed in life by his/her
own effort then they must believe in themselves. We have to believe in
ourselves and in our abilities because our inner faith will create our
external results. People easily lose faith in themselves when encountering
setbacks, failure and fear. When you lack confidence in yourself, others
will pick up on that and won’t take you seriously. Not many people live
the life that they have always wished to live; they give up on their life goals
as soon as they encounter the first setback. One of the main causes for this is
that they do not believe in themselves.
“Believe in yourself, and
the rest will fall into place. Have faith in your own abilities, work hard and
there is nothing you cannot accomplish.” – Brad Henry
The
world that we are living in is extremely competitive and challenging, and
people start to doubt themselves and their abilities when they meet with
failure and negative people. But a few failures are not the end. You must
get back up again.
1. Accept Your Current Situation
The
first thing you need to do is start believing in yourself again is to accept
your current life situation. You have to make peace with how your life looks at
the moment and what led to this situation that you are in. Fighting with your
situation won’t do you any good. Being resistant is pointless, so we
must accept first. Only then will we have enough energy to change our
life.
“First, accept sadness.
Realize that without losing, winning isn’t so great.” – Alyssa Milano.
2. Think About Your Past Success
If
you are feeling down and out, use your past to get motivated again. Remember
the time when you used to just kick butt. When you were awesome and you used to
rock it! Put yourself in that past and think about the awesome things that you
used to do. Now remember that you can do it again. It is easy to think
about the times when you got hurt, but it is just as easy to think about those
times when you were successful as well. Use your past to your advantage.
“Every day is a new
opportunity. You can build on yesterday’s success or put its failure behind and
start over again. That’s the way life is, with a new game every day.”– Bob Feller.
3. Trust Yourself
This
is one of the most important things that can help you get that belief and
confidence back. All the energy, power, courage, strength and confidence is
within you. Spend time with yourself to access it, whether it be
through meditation, journalling, or activities that make you trust in yourself
again.
“Everything in the
universe is within you. Ask all from yourself.” – Rumi
4. Talk with Yourself
We
are the ones who create who we will become. We do that every day by our daily
beliefs and self-talk. It’s really important that we talk to ourselves and
motivate ourselves. We don’t ultimately need others’ approval. You
deserve your own self-approval and supportive self-talk.
“The brain simply
believes what you tell it most. And what you tell it about you, it will create.
It has no choice.”
“If you tell yourself that you cannot, what can the only outcome be?” – Shad Helmstetter.
“If you tell yourself that you cannot, what can the only outcome be?” – Shad Helmstetter.
5. Don’t Let Fear Stop You
Fear
stands for False Evidence that Appears Real.
It is the main thing that holds you back from believing in yourself again
more than anything else. Face your fears and don’t let them stop you from
achieving your goals.
“Always do what you are
afraid to do.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
6. Let Yourself Off the Hook
You
have to forgive yourself for any failures or mistakes that you have committed
in the past and move on. You have to look at the future and stop living in the
past. Be compassionate towards yourself.
7. Go With A Positive Attitude
Having
a positive attitude towards everything is the quickest way in achieving that
belief and confidence in yourself. Be thankful for whatever you are and
whatever you have. Always have a positive approach and see the good in the
world.
8. Let a Life Coach Help You
A
life coach is a professional that helps, supports, and guides you. A life
coach can help you recognize your abilities and skills. They can help you
refocus on your goals and remember your past successes. When you’re full
of doubt, your life coach will believe in you and help you to believe in
yourself again.
9. Keep Moving Forward And Never Look Back
“If
you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then
crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” – Martin Luther
King Jr.
There
are going to be countless times in your life when you will feel down and you
will feel like giving up. The voice in your head will tell you to stop and you
will start to doubt yourself, but never listen to that voice.
Be strong and keep moving on. Never give up on yourself. You have to keep on
going and eventually you will reach your destination. And when you do,
you will realize how much more powerful you have become.
10. Let Life Move You
Let
your life follow its own natural flow. When you learn to follow your
life’s flow, you’ll realize that life is marvellous and precious. If
you let your life guide you, it will shower you with its gifts and riches.
You have to accept the life you are given and you have to learn to
relax. Allow it to let you move in the direction you are meant to go, and you
will find success.
“We all have different
things that we go through in our everyday life, and it’s really important to
know just at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what you face, you know that
you’re going to win at the end of the day. You got to believe in yourself. You
got to believe in God, know that He’s going to get you through it.” – Kelly
Rowland.
Personal Life-
Till now what I got that’s because
of my own strength and own effort , even I have seen people don’t make friendship
with me just because fear if I’ll get success due to them , some also leave me
in my worst period . still I never bow my head before failure. people call me egoistic
, of course I am , because I learnt HOW TO WALK ALONE IN MY LIFE . I love to be
myself .
Read my whole Biography , This is not only post , read my whole blog posts , you can get know more about me -http://poemstoryshayari.blogspot.in/2013/06/my-hostel-life-from-12th-class-to-whole_4604.html
Now I am 23+ years old and pursing
MBA and a long road wait for me to get success in my future life . I have faith
on myself I can win in my life race , God is with me J
I always take myself as "ONE WOMAN ARMY"
The following passage, The Way of Walking Alone, was written a week
before Musashi died in 1645. This personal manifesto expresses a
stringent, honest, and ascetic view of life in 21 powerful
principles.
1.
Accept everything just
the way it is.
2.
Do not seek pleasure for
its own sake.
3.
Do not, under any
circumstances, depend on a partial feeling.
4.
Think lightly of yourself
and deeply of the world.
5.
Be detached from desire
your whole life.
6.
Do not regret what you
have done.
7.
Never be jealous.
8.
Never let yourself be
saddened by a separation.
9.
Resentment and complaint
are appropriate neither for oneself nor others.
10.
Do not let yourself be
guided by the feeling of lust or love.
11.
In all things, have no
preferences.
12.
Be indifferent to where
you live.
13.
Do not pursue the taste
of good food. [Do not overindulge.]
14.
Do not hold on to
possessions you no longer need.
15.
Do not act following
customary beliefs.
16.
Do not collect weapons or
practice with weapons beyond what is useful.
17.
Do not fear death.
18.
Do not seek to possess
either goods or fiefs for your old age.
19.
Respect Buddha and the
gods without counting on their help.[Respect the belief
systems of others.]
20.
You may abandon your own
body but you must preserve your honor.
21.
Never stray from the way.
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